is bullshit advice.
My bigness is not determined by my capacity to quietly absorb bullying, degradation, or abuse.
I think the truest thing I’ve ever read that addresses this, and it made me cry, was Captain Awkward’s “The Peace Is Already Broken” post.
^^ HOLY SHIT THOUGH ^^
This is so important. Letting it be awkward is a SUPER important skill. It’s really hard for anyone who’s been abused because we’ve been trained to make things nice so we’ll be safe. But it’s important to remember that it’s NOT YOU who is making it awkward. The peace has already been broken. If the other person wasn’t being a dickbag, it wouldn’t be awkward.
Let it be awkward.